Images of Mother

It’s interesting how our opinion of our mother can change as we grow and experience change for ourselves. I tweaked this from some other source which is unknown to me. It doesn’t hold up in all situations but is designed to get you to think. For example:

age 4 — “My Mommy can do anything!”

age 8 — “My Mom knows everything!”

age 12 — “My Mother doesn’t quite know everything.”

age 14 — “Mother doesn’t know anything about that.”

age 16 — “Mother? She’s sooo old fashioned!”

age 18 — “Mother? She’s not current about things.”

age 25 — “Maybe Mother knows something about this.”

age 35 — “Before we decide, let’s get Mom’s opinion.”

age 45 — “It was really nice talking to you, Mom.”

age 55 — “Thanks for listening and helping, Mom.”

age 65 — “I wish I could talk it over with Mom.”

As we experience things in our adult life, we begin to appreciate Mom (and Dad) more. We often understand things much better after experiencing them rather than hearing someone else’s experience. My advice to you younger people: learn from the experience and mistakes of others so you don’t have to go through pain yourself. I hope you get to the respectful, appreciative and thoughtful part of the relationship far before the chart above implies.

The Bible says the older ones should leave an inheritance to the younger ones. That doesn’t just mean a house or money or land. Many times an inheritance consists of intangible things that carry us through life. My mother used to say, “If you can’t say something nice about someone then don’t say anything at all.” She was a very kind, helpful, and thoughtful person and that is always my first memory of her.

Some of those pithy sayings stick with us forever. Three phrases that should be in all of our vocabularies can help smooth the rough spots: “I love you!”, “I’m sorry!”, and “Oops, I made a mistake, let me clarify that.” Be careful what you say! Make your words sweet, you may have to eat them!


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